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I started to notice that my body didn’t look like my friends’ when I was in fourth grade.
I remember sitting with my best friend and asking, “Do you think I’m fat? In fact, she probably meant to make me feel better.
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Together, they cited information from 6 references.Early memories have the power to shape who you are.Everyone has experienced specific things that have influenced how they act and think as an adult.I never thought less of anyone else who gained weight – it was a completely personal struggle.When it came to my body, I felt like I had to compensate: I had to be funny or smart or artsy to avoid being defined by my physical appearance.I understand that sometimes friends or family members may not always know how to respond to someone struggling with the way they look.Those closest to us love us the way we are and want us to accept ourselves, too.But my size isn’t just something I’ve struggled with “liking.” From a young age, I have believed my weight and appearance were how I would be defined and would dictate how others treat me.I began to think that any weight I gained would just be more of a reason for people to dislike me and that any weight that I lost would account for my popularity.Hearing that confirms that if I were a bit heavier I should feel bad about myself and makes me even more fearful that people will judge me for gaining weight.What I have found to be most helpful is when people allow me to speak openly about why I feel the way I do about my body and talk with me about accepting myself – not about changing it.